Iām Alexa, perinatal Expert and motherhood coach
When I was pregnant with my second, it felt like everyone had a warning ready.
"Two is so much harder than one." "Say goodbye to sleep. And your social life." "Just get through the first year."
Nobody asked what I wanted that season to look like. They just assumed I'd be giving things up. My time. My work. My sense of who I was outside of being someone's mom.
And for a while, I believed them. I caught myself quietly shrinking my plans before anyone even asked me to. Mentally cancelling trips. Wondering if the work I loved would have to wait. Bracing.
Then I Decided to Do It Differently
Here's what I figured out: harder and less aren't the same thing.
Yes, two kids is more. More laundry, more logistics, more nights where everyone needs you at once. But I didn't have to disappear to make it work.
So I made choices a lot of people raised an eyebrow at.
I love my boys, and I love daycare drop-off. Both are true, and I stopped apologizing for it.
I went back to work because I wanted to, not because I had to. My career is part of who I am.
I kept my identity. The things I love, the friendships, the parts of me that existed before kids.
I stopped measuring my worth as a mom in minutes. Being present matters more than being everywhere.
And something unexpected happened. ā± Instead of shrinking, my life got bigger. More capacity. More connection. More me.
What I Kept Hearing From Other Moms
I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). I've spent years sitting with moms in pregnancy and postpartum, hearing the things they couldn't say anywhere else.
And the second-time moms kept saying the same thing:
"I just have to survive it."
They were capable, accomplished women. Women who'd built careers and marriages and lives they loved. And they were getting ready to give all of it up, because that's what they'd been told a good mom of two does.
The ones who came out of that season feeling bigger weren't the ones with easier babies or more help. They were the ones who stopped planning for less and decided, on purpose, what they wanted this season to be.
I wanted every second-time mom to have that option. So I built Second Time Mom Co.
Why I'm Your Coach (Not Your Therapist)
My clinical training means I understand what's really going on underneath the guilt, the resentment, and the 11pm spiraling. Coaching lets me point all of that forward: toward where you want to go and exactly how to get there.
In Second Time Mom Co, I'm your coach, not your therapist. This is a coaching program, completely separate from any therapy practice. We're not diagnosing or treating anything. We're building the second-baby season you actually want.
And because it's coaching, I work with moms anywhere in the world, 100% online.
What I Believe About Motherhood
You don't have to be a martyr to be a good mom. Your kids don't need you to disappear. They need you to live.
Loving daycare drop-off is allowed. So is wanting your career back, a girls' trip, or a quiet hour that's just yours.
Harder doesn't mean less. Two kids is more work. It doesn't have to cost you yourself.
I don't care how you feed your baby. Or whether you sleep train. I care that you have a life you like.
You're capable. You've been good at hard things your whole life. This season just needs a new plan.
A Few Things You Should Know About Me
I live in San Diego with my partner and our two boys.
My favorite way to decompress is in the kitchen, cooking or baking something I don't have to share.
I'm currently teaching myself to crochet. Results vary.
My one step skincare routine is non-negotiable, even on the days nothing else happens.
The thing I refused to give up in round two: my career, my friendships, the hobbies and interests that make me feel like myself
Your Second Baby Gets to Make Your Life Better, Not Worse
If you're pregnant with your second, or they're already here, and you're tired of hearing it only gets harder, I'd love to show you what else is possible.
Every Round Two client starts with a $97 consult where we map what you want this season to look like. Online, from anywhere in the world. Baby welcome.